rachael2010
1 post
Mar 10, 2010
1:13 PM
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Hello,Im 27 I found out nov.17,09 the day after my b-day i was pregnaut.and this would have made my fisrt child. I went to the doc. when i was 6 weeks and they seen the baby and said they heard the heart beat. I went back when i was 12 weeks and they couldnt find anything or hear anything they seen blood flow but didnt know where it was going to she said it looked as if the baby could be hinding but another doc. came in and said that i have had miscarriage.But i didnt see how cause i hadnt had any sings of one. So i didnt know where to turn so i went to see another doc. He explaned things to me better he said my sac was damaged and i was gonna have a miscarriage.On jan.12th 2010 I had it naturally on my own it was painful and sad .I Actually passed the baby and that was the saddest thing to have to go through.Its been 2 months since this has happend and i have been trying again but nothing I was hopeing i was this time but i got my period today.It still makes me sad to this day and i cry. IM so depressed. Its sad to see my friends with babies.But i know God has something in store for me i just dont know what it is yet. But Im hoping my day will come soon for me to become a mommy
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Lee
52 posts
Mar 10, 2010
1:50 PM
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Hi Rachel, I am so sorry for everything that you had to go through and how you are feeling. I found this site the night I had my 2nd miscarriage aimlessly surfing the net. And I cannot tell you how much it helped me cope and get to a better place.
If I think back to my first post and see where I am, I am doing much better. Alive, hopeful, and trying.
I went to the same thing: Heartbeat at 6 weeks, follow up at 8 weeks with no heart beat and empty sac. I had d&c following day. I am 10 years older than you and that also is always something that is on back of mind.
I think it's best you wait 3 cycles after the miscarriage. I jumped right back after my 1st loss and got pregnant only to loose the baby again. May be it's a nature's way of telling us our bodies have different healing time by not getting pregnant right away for you?
I am sure you will be a mom in near future. We all have to be in better place physically and mentally and things will fall in places.
Try to laugh and smile at least once a day. Big hug to you.
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Andrea
132 posts
Mar 10, 2010
5:04 PM
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Lee,
Hello my kindred spirit...we share something in common, our age. Here's to being 30 something! Do you have a blog? If not, you need to start one and join us. Visit mine www.persuitofourfairytale.blogspot.com the blogger community is amazing and full of inspiration!
HUGS
Rachel,
I too, suffered the no heart beat visit at 10 weeks, our baby lay sleeping. It was/is the ultimate heart break, so I strongly empathize with how you are feeling. Give yourself the time to heal and allow your body to heal, as that's important...let the uterine lining thicken, as it should to sustain a pregnancy. Just be good to yourself. You will go through many emotions, feel them and deal as best you can and keep coming here for support.
Wishing you all the best and I am so sorry for your loss. BIG HUGS
Andrea
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rachael2010
2 posts
Mar 10, 2010
6:41 PM
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Thanks so much for talking to me Ive read lots of post on here and have began to feel some what better. I can talk to my mom and boyfriend about things but its just not the same cause they just havent been through it like i have. I have alot on my mine cause i lost my dad right b4 the misscariage i put him in the ground 2 days b4 Christmas and then jan 12th lost the baby so i have been under alot of stress. and i found this site to be very helpful. this makes my thrid cycle and im ready to try again.Im gonna try with a clear mind and try not to think about it and see if it happens i have my fingers crossed and im praying. Thanks all and keep me in mind big hugs and best of luck to u all too ttyl
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Angie H
33 posts
Mar 11, 2010
2:55 AM
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Oh Rachel!
I read about how much stress you are going through and my heart goes out to you .
I lost my dad less than 3 months after my miscarriage and I know how hard it is when life brings you so much heart break.
Know that the 3 first months after miscarriage are the worst as you become hormonally imbalanced too on top of the heart ache of loss and in you case the loss of your father .
Life hits you so hard sometimes but know that this wont last forever ! You are going to feel better day by day week after week .
Slowly you will have more and more good days and you will enjoy life again.
Let yourself cry and be sad to get it all out .
I wish you good luck trying to conceive again .
I had my miscarriage may -09 and we are still trying to conceive but its different for everyone and I hope it will be sooner than later for you .
Take care of you and let us know how you get on !
Love Angie
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manda
16 posts
Mar 11, 2010
2:43 PM
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Rachel, I wanted to try right away after my loss. I was very anxious and impatient to conceive as quickly as possible. I think that I should have taken the time I needed to grieve properly. The whole situation was emotionally confusing. How can one feel hope for the future while dealing with such a new and deep wound? We tried unsuccessfully for almost a year. I just found out that I am pregnant! Interestingly, this last month was probably the most positive and healthy I have felt for a long time. I think that this baby was waiting for me to find some balance. I really feel like I'm prepared to be healthy and positive and take care of this special baby.
Who knows when the time will be right for you. Please know that it is ok for you to spend some time with the memory of your child before you move on.
Good luck!
-Amanda
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rachael2010
3 posts
Mar 11, 2010
2:58 PM
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Thanks Everyone 4 talkin with me its makeing me feel much better
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Andrea
138 posts
Mar 13, 2010
9:39 AM
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Manda,
I think you are SO right...our bodies do wait for balance :) I read recently that when we are stresses the brain sends signals to our hormones which can inhibit conception. Sad, but probably true. I'm working to find ways to release myself from the "wanting". Good news is that I'm getting there!
Hugs and continued happiness...
xoxo
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