fergus55
8 posts
Jun 15, 2010
4:34 PM
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i have been searching the net for different stories on people timing sex,taking their basal temperature, taking ovulation kits etc etc but i really do believe when we stress too much about when and how to fall pregnant it really wont happen...one interesting article was about a lady that had been doing all the above methods too fall pregnant..sex was becoming a chore and had lost its flair..she desperately wanted a child at 37..they gave up after a year she stopped thinking about it as much and...when moving house and not thinking about babies and mind occupied on something else her sex life had returned and bang pregnant..i just wanted to bring this up as i realised that me too after my first miscarry was trying to concieve by the book..only to have sex every third day in a month and i fell in straight away..no kits no temperature taking and less stressed...:) just something to think about for all who are trying
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Lily
81 posts
Jun 16, 2010
7:52 PM
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That is really sweet..and I agree but its soo hard to switch off
I had to have my laparascopy last week and when I went to the private hospital, due to renovations, I was placed in the maternity ward, my first initial thought I burst into tears as I saw empty cots on wheels (the hospital ones) then a nurse saw me led me to a room to compose myself with hubby, I settled myself, let out negative thoughts and took on positive
I looked at sitting in this ward and hearing babies cry meant that I am one step closer to being there myself and this operation is to help it..it so helped me by choosing the right attitude
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fergus55
10 posts
Jun 16, 2010
10:23 PM
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so tru Lily and i found everyone around me no matter where i went seemed to be pregnant or pushing little girls around in prams..i have a sister who has a 5 weeks old and my best friend who has an 11 week old i now am fine with things and hope and pray one day that will be me soon....
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Andrea
202 posts
Jun 20, 2010
11:09 AM
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The key word in this scenario is AGE...when you are young you have TIME to not temp, not ckeck an OPK, not time sex and just hang out.
BUT
For those of us who are over 35, we have to do due dilligence on our part as the clock is ticking.
Also, the old myth of "don't worry about it and it will happen" is just that a myth. It's just like the myth "start adoption proceedings and you will get pregnant"...it just doesn't work like this. Before my loss I even offered up that advice and sadly now I know the real reality :(
Yes, its wonderful to calm the mind, but once you've been dealing with infertility for a year or longer with no results AND seeing an RE...there is much more to the story.
SO, if you are over 35, my advice is DON'T WASTE TIME thinking you are over thinking things :) See an RE and get the ball rolling!
HUGS
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fergus55
11 posts
Jun 20, 2010
8:06 PM
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that is so true Andrea and even when you go to the doctors anything over 35 is classed as increased risk...
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Andrea
203 posts
Jun 21, 2010
1:04 PM
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Fergs and Lily,
Sending you both hugs...and prayers of endurance. This road is so hard, with lots of bumps and pot holes along the way. And, seeing others realize the dream we want so badly sure does tug at the heart.
Journey on sweet friends and know that I'm cheering for you!
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Lee
86 posts
Jun 21, 2010
9:09 PM
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Yes, for some reason, all our journeys have been more difficult than others. But remember, good things happen to those who try. We might be more challenged and be considered high risk, but I cannot think of better equipped age energy wise and maturity wise than 30 something or later.
Keep on trying!
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Trying to be Strong
31 posts
Jun 23, 2010
7:52 PM
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Ladies,
I was reading a Christie Brinkley article(don't ask why)but she is 56, I did the math with her children she had her son at 40-41 and her daughter at 43-44. So extra prayers for us. We can do it. We just need to hang in there. I was considering giving up and she inspired me. No, I am not too old. I don't feel too old. So lets keep our chins up. We can do it. We all deserve it.
xoxo
Jenn
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fergus55
12 posts
Jun 23, 2010
8:09 PM
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so true jENN.... i didnt think i would be having children as i had mine when i was 23 and 25 to my first husband its such a big difference from now to back then...but i do get inspired by alot of people and i wont let two miscarriages hold me back when i am a healthy 38 year old....like the dr told me i have had two perfect children before its not an issue plus my last miscarriage was caused by a clot behind the placenta that took me into early labour there was nothing wrong with the baby...so i agree us 35+ women can do this it may just take a little longer than the below 35 year olds xox
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Andrea
211 posts
Jun 24, 2010
12:42 PM
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Amen Girls! Journey on to success :) Cheers to the 30 Somethings!! And, I do feel that we are well equipped for future children :)
Much Love
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