fergus55
13 posts
Jun 26, 2010
1:57 AM
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i live in Australia and yesterday it was "red nose" day which is a remembrance day for all women and families who have lost children through SIDS miscarriage or stillbirths..many women got together and released many red balloons in the sky with babies names on them..then a church service was held afterwards in the city of Melbourne...it was so sad to see so many women like us emotional together on one day...but it makes the public aware that this misfortune can happen to anyone...it bought tears to my eyes thinking of my little Ruby and wishing i was still pregnant..i think the best thing is for people to speak about this have national remembrance days and let people express themselves openly with places like this site to share emotions and experience, whether good or bad....i am three days off expecting my period nearly 8 weeks after losing Ruby and have breast tenderness i am praying i may be pregnant again but not getting hopes too high,,fingers crossed :)
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sara28
47 posts
Jun 26, 2010
8:18 AM
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I agree... What a great way to help with the healing. I would have loved to have been a part of something like that.
And my fingers are crossed for you as well! You deserve the happy ending.
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LeeLee
88 posts
Jun 26, 2010
4:27 PM
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The japanese have gardens for miscarriages where women can grieve. It's amazing how closeted it is here in america
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fergus55
14 posts
Jun 27, 2010
12:44 AM
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:( got my period today two days early will keep trying
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Andrea
212 posts
Jun 29, 2010
7:38 AM
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Hang in there honey....its so hard and I'm sorry your heart is heavy.
BIG HUGS
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fergus55
16 posts
Jun 29, 2010
5:48 PM
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thanks Andrea i really felt i was pregnant again but hopefully will happen soon...not long after i lost Ruby i went to a tarot reader for guidance..she told me i will be pregnant before August this year with a boy then will have a little girl quite close....i certainly dont live my life by what she has told me but it would be nice....has anyone else been to tarot readers and have been told anything to do with children???????...she told me i had a great soul and deserved happiness and she sees no more miscarriages ahead for me which was reassuring...well my journey continues and together with my husband grow stronger everyday
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Lily
82 posts
Jun 30, 2010
8:32 PM
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Hi fergus
I am in Australia too
Wish we had a garden to mourn
Yes I have a spiritual healer who has been helping me through this journey but I find it hard to be told I should be pregnant by then as I was told this last year and did not happen...so I believe i made it not happen so I do not want pressure of time to be placed on me thats what I find does not help
and my relationship with my husband and I has never been so strong through everything we have been through and every day I say it gets stronger
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fergus55
19 posts
Jul 13, 2010
5:28 PM
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so true Lily...nice to see fellow aussies online ...this site has helped me deal with our sorrow and realise that so many women go through loss and miscarriage far more then first thought..
i gain strength every day and looking forward to posting some good news on here soon..i feel like my time is running out i will be 39 in september and i know it will be harder to concieve nearing this age i am very healthy so hopefully that will help...love to everyone
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Andrea
216 posts
Jul 14, 2010
2:20 PM
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Fergs,
I relate to your thoughts on age, as I will be turning 38 in September. Yes, age does play into the big picture, but we certainly are not out of the game by any stretch :) Here's to good news in September! My birthday is in September too!
Hugs as we journey on!
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fergus55
20 posts
Jul 14, 2010
4:16 PM
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Hi Andrea September is a great month to celebrate our birthday i love spring here in Australia..lots of new life fresh air flowers everywhere...i know there are alot of older women having there first babies at this age for me it is starting again after having my two beautiful boys back when i was 23 and 25..i know from my last pregnancy which i lost i did feel alot more tired my body is no way what it use to be but i still felt healthy and fine with the pregnancy..i look at other mums alot older then myself and they have coped..i am a nurse and work in an emergency department..i see alot of women all ages coming in with miscarriage i feel i can help them more knowing i have been through it myself..but it is not just an older womens problem... i nursed a 21 year old that miscarried..my dr said its more women over 35 suffer the diabetes more and high blood pressure and tire alot easier...i just nursed a lady last night that was 45 when she had her first son he is now 5 it was lovely to meet her and hear her story she said she felt wonderful when she was pregnant but did have people looking twice at her..well i hope to fall pregnant before my birthday that would be the best present ever...:) :)
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Andrea
217 posts
Jul 16, 2010
8:54 AM
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Fergs,
Cheers to September! Praying we both get a fresh start and the miracles we deserve :)
Thanks for the stories, as they create HOPE. Sending you prayers and positive vibes as you journey on.
HUGS
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Lily
88 posts
Aug 02, 2010
1:02 AM
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Hi Fergs
Great to hear your knowledge and experience for women of all ages...I agree we do not need pressure of age but only that if our bodies will allow us to be blessed with this gift it will happen with whatever intervention we may need but if we are in right head space and TRUST in the process..it will happen..if there is doubt.. you must do whater ever to eliminate doubt to get to the bottom x
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