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balanced chromosomal translocation
sunshinesnavely
1 post
Aug 17, 2010
11:09 PM
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I am the very lucky mother of a 3 year old. My 5th pregnancy I finally got lucky. My husband has a balanced chromosomal translocation and so I lost 4 babies before I had my daughter. Two losses were early on, my first didn't have a heartbeat at my 12 week ultrasound, and my third little girl had Trisomy 18 which they claim was not related to the translocation. My 3 year old is perfect in every way. She was born at 35 weeks since they think the previous losses had made me permanently diallated but is healthy. I have not had her tested to see if she carries a balanced translocation. I'm 36 and would still love to have a second child but am not sure I can go through the possible losses again. I have a 20% chance they think of misscarriage anytime I get pregnant due to the translocation. THe first 4 losses changed me so much and I have just now found my old personality again. I am older though and can't wait if it takes me 3-5 years again to have a successful pregnancy. Plus am I hurting my daughter knowing there is a chance of abnormalaties any time I get pregnant. I never thought I would be able to have my daugher after all the losses so I can come to terms if she is my only child. Am I being selfish to even consider putting my family through it all again?
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Tabitha
58 posts
Aug 18, 2010
4:52 PM
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Wow! Sounds like your mind is racing with all kinds of thoughts. I know this won't be much help, but you are the only one who can decide what will be best for you. I do not think you are selfish because you would like to have a larger family. I just don't believe that's selfish at all. You KNOW that despite all of the things that are against you, you can have a healthy child. You just have to weigh all of your options and figure out what works best for you. I will pray for you. Please keep us updated on how you're doing! Sending hugs!
Tabitha
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