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NoleenR on July 29, 2010 at 04:58 AM said:

i in a state of despair and emotionally disturbed.Am in a foreign country for a course till sept.Since last week I have been experiencing back ache cramps which is very unusual of me with my previous preganancy.This last sun,spotted and as from today am releasing clots and this is a miscarriage.The difficult part is that I've no access to preganancy medication as my medical aid isn't covering this.At the same time I want this to be as natural as it can be.Am so disturbed after having bond with my baby in the first month.

ania on July 29, 2010 at 02:31 AM said:

hi all. i had a miscarriage over a year ago. lost 14 weeks pregnancy. im not english so didnt understand everything that i was told in a hospital. my husband dealt with decisions, i had to deal with it phisicaly. and emotionally. cried for over 7 months after that, everyday. i thought i was going crazy. i hated pregnant women. i couldnt understand why me. my husband was explaining that it happens a lot to women and i kept saying that im not other women. why me??? and it went on and on like this. i kind of let go not so long ago when i realized that its 'normal' to feel this way- to cry, to hate and to envy. i just wish my friends were more gentle with me and instead of pretending that nothing happened just asked me how i felt. because i am heart broken you know!!! so to all these people whose friend or family member had a miscarriage- please show some interest and understanding. we dont have a baby to show around but we do have a story to tell!

LeAnne on July 28, 2010 at 06:09 PM said:

Hey Everybody. I just got out the hospital a few days ago. i had a miscarriage at 14 weeks. I am so heartbroken. This was my first baby. I has such a STRONG feeling it was a baby boy. The doc says my Miscarriage was probably due to "Incompetent Cervix" i just cant believe it. I gave birth to a healthy baby, But just 6 weeks to early to live outside the womb. I feel like this is my fault. And this all happened in such a terrible way. I went into labor without completely knowing what was going on, and had my baby in the toilet. I can still see the baby in my head. He was much bigger than i thought he would be. So developed. He looked just like a little baby. He was a little baby, my baby. When i saw what had happened i just sat there on the toilet crying. I just couldn't believe this had just happened. And right there before my eyes my baby was dead. All my hopes and dreams just gone in an instant. I was sooo ready for my baby... The paramedics came and took me with the baby still attached, to the hospital where i then delivered the placenta. And while i was in the hospital i felt so empty. I just gave birth to a baby, and here i am empty handed. I could hear baby's crying down the hallway. It took forever for my doctor to come see me because he was delivering babies... It's been about a week and i cry every night. Everyone keeps trying to contact me and i just don't want to talk to anyone except my baby's father. This is so hard, Definitely the hardest thing I've ever been through.

Lisa on July 25, 2010 at 12:43 AM said:

The day after the shock of finding out I was pregnant turned into excitement... I started to spot. Hearing it was "sometimes normal" made me believe everything will be ok. A few days later the spotting turned to blood. Dr. said, this could still be normal. One week went by and after a massive cramp I passed my baby. I don't know how to handle this. I find myself crying most of the time, still able to smile at others. I've had someone tell me "you weren't even pregnant that long to be so upset" Is it ridiculous that I feel so lost and empty after being only 7-8 weeks along and only knowing I was pregnant for 1?

wanda on July 24, 2010 at 11:42 AM said:

hi ladies i have been reading all your stories and its so sad with all you have been through. i have 2 children and inbetween i also lost a baby it hit me really hard and my partner could not understand my pain then i was blessed with my little girl and thought i would never have she now 3 last year sept 7th i found out i was preg again never thought anything would in wrong as at 6 wks i had a scan and everything was ok i went had my 12 scan there was no heartbeat i was heart broken my partner was well never mind we will try again but thats not what you want to hear when lossing a baby on 4th nov i had a d and c done it was heart breaking to also walk out the hosp and looking at people with newborn babies and i felt so empty this year i found out i was preg again and i now 7 months i am still scared the fear never goes away and i had bleeding in this pregnancy ladies all i can say never give up i pray for you all your always in my thoughts ladies x x

Jennifer on July 22, 2010 at 08:59 PM said:

We lost our identical twins yesterday at 8 weeks. This is my 1st miscarriage and am not sure how to cope. My husband and I are blessed with a 3 yr old girl who has been able to keep us busy and smiling. Hopefully the sadness will pass quickly and we can begin focusing on our future.

Trish on July 22, 2010 at 01:38 PM said:

I have a beautiful son, made more so by the fact that it took us nearly 5 years of trying to get him and I thought my life was complete. Two years later right after my mother died, I got pregnant thought it was a miracle and then miscarried at 9 weeks, I was devastated, but kept going. I got pregnant a year later but found it was a blighted ovum and had to have a D&C at 12 weeks. This year I found out on my birthday that I was again pregnant but by that point I was too nervous to be happy and again I lost the baby within a week of finding out I was pregnant(6 weeks). Two months later I was pregnant again. I did not even hope at that point and yes....I lost the baby (7 weeks). (Third miscarriage in under 10 months) That was when my GP sent me for tests. I go tomorrow to see the gynaecologist. I know that there may not be an answer but I have to at least try to find out why......I have been unable really to talk about it because it hurts too much, but I try to be upbeat for my little boy and husband....very hard. I work in a very stressful environment and to some extent that keeps me focussed on other things. I have not told people about the last 2 times at all but now the strength that I need to keep it to myself seems to be waning and I can feel myself screaming inside....wanting people to ask what's wrong but not wanting to tell them because if I start to cry I may not stop. Tomorrow is going to be hard because the focus will be on this and I am going to have to talk about it to a stranger, a male doctor. Oh well

Embo on July 21, 2010 at 04:09 PM said:

I just had a missed miscarriage at 11 weeks. I found out the fetus had died at about 8 weeks. This was especially hard, as I'd had an ultrasound at 7 weeks and the heart rate was good and my hormone levels were good and everything was progressing normally. I was told at that stage I had less than 1% chance of having a miscarriage. I don't know whether it was a placental problem or chromosomal. I am concerned it will happen again, as everyone was surprised that it wasn't viable and can't offer an explanation

Patty on July 14, 2010 at 01:06 PM said:

I had an incomplete miscarriage a few weeks ago when I was 18 weeks pregnant. I didn't have any signs (except for the feeling that I was feeling better and didn't feel like I was growing bigger) when we found out the heart wasn't beating anymore. I had the choice of letting the miscarriage happen, inducing delivery or going out of town to have a D&C. I went for the D&C and ended up bleeding so bad I had to have a transfusion and surgery to stop the bleeding. 2 1/2 weeks later I am still bleeding slightly and I'm worried something else is wrong. I am okay most days. I am so lucky to have 2 kids already, but hurt so bad when their heart breaks. I find comfort in hearing all of your stories.

Lisa Rose Powell on July 11, 2010 at 07:08 PM said:

Hello all as im writing this i have just had my 6th miscarriage i have been prego 7 times i have one daughter, we were hopping to give her a sibling found out i was prego with twins 10 weeks 9 days its so painful

Cassie on July 10, 2010 at 10:00 PM said:

I had a still birth a little over 2 years ago. My husband and I (different guy from my baby's dad) are trying to get pregnant now and it's been very difficult. I was so scared when i found out i was pregnant. But then later i was soo happy then very sad when i lost him. I was 5 months along when i had him, it was so hard on me i had to give brith to him and all. I had such a hard pregnancie i was always throwing up never being able to go out and do anything just throwing up and sleeping and laying on my grandparents couch all the time. It's been hard for my husband and i to get pregnant and when we finally do im soo not taking for granted this time im going to do the best i can for my child. I felt so bad with my son that after i lost him my cosion actually tryed to blame me for it saying it was my fault b/c i didnt eat, but she dosent understand what i was going through i couldnt eat and she mad it so hard on me that i actually belived it was my fault. Well i'm just hopeing that he's up in heaven with god being taken care of with his cosions and any other family i have up there.

Elizabeth on July 6, 2010 at 02:44 PM said:

I've had to miscarraiges this year mmy first the day befor newyears eve the second five am this morning. I keep expecting this to be all just a dream and for me to wake up tomorow with a big tummy I'll feel fine for a second as if it's not happening or it's no worse then a broken toy, that it can be esily be fixed then boom reality snaps me back and I realize my children are gone. This is the worst pain I could ever imagine.

G on July 4, 2010 at 07:48 PM said:

About 18 months ago, I left a message on this site having just suffered a miscarriage. It was the worst time in my life: a very dark hole. I want to write this to those of you going through a similar time - especially if it is your first pregnancy, like mine was. My husband and I were both devastated - the usual question of why? and then on to thoughts such as what if we can't have children? followed us around. My husband grieved and then seemed to put it behind him. I found it more difficult and seemed to cry on a daily basis for a long time - the littlest of things triggering my memory. Everywhere I looked there seemed to be babies or pregnant ladies - it seemed so very unfair. My husband was keen to start trying again, however, I was too caught up in the grief; physically I wasn't ready and mentally a long way off. People meant well but unless you've experienced that loss do you really understand. Comments such as 'oh, just try again' are very difficult to take on board. Listening to other people announce their pregnancies is equally difficult and being happy for them, yet inside it feels like another deep blow. As the months progressed we seemed to switch roles - I was keen to try again, my husband very laid back about it all. This pulled our relationship apart and at times it was very lonely. I made us both a little card with some positive quotes on them and positive statistics about conceiving after a miscarriage; we both carried them around with us in our wallets. We didn't always look at them - but they were always there. It is SO difficult to be positive and some days seems incredibly cruel to you but you have to keep moving forward. Remember each person grieves in different ways and try your best to give each other time and understanding (much easier than it sounds). I am writing this now as I have recently had a little boy. We are overjoyed. However, the fear a miscarriage puts into you never truly disappears. Every day was like treading on egg shells yet I had to constantly tell myself to relax. We didn't tell family until I was 4 months - and friends until I was 5 months: I was so scared. A few days after we came home we looked at the scans of our little boy. It was then my husband told me he still had the scan of our first baby. Tears are now pouring down my face as I recall all we went through. Please, please do your best to stay strong.

Megan July 1 2010 on July 1, 2010 at 09:17 PM said:

Mon Jun 28 my husbands 27th bday i woke up spotting @ 2am. we went to the ER they said possible miscarriage n sent me hm. Later that evening i went bk n was tld my HcG levels were dropping I was 6weeks this is my 3rd loss. I hv a beautiful daughter w my ex n my loving husband has 2 boys frm his previous wife. This was his first miscarriage. He wnt tlk to me but has cried n my arms. I was scared again to try the D&C so im waitin it out My baby is still inside of me ive tried numerous times to tell myself the baby is ok n this is a dream. but its not. god bless everyone!<3

Angela on June 30, 2010 at 02:47 PM said:

Hi all, first of all I want to say that Im DEEPLY sorry for your losses. I found out that I was pregnant 9 weeks ago. My hubby and I wernt really trying to get prego but we wernt preventitg it either. We go in for an ultrasound at wat was supposed to be 8 weeks, and the tech said that I was aobut 6 weeks...I seen the baby AND the heartbeat. She said that the bpm was 116 - I was a lil concerned at that point and I said something to her - "isnt that a bit low?" The tech's response was that I was just barely starting out and the heartbeat was normally a lil slow at first. So I didnt worry about it as much. Then about a week later I noticed that my pregnancy symptoms completely went away and I just didnt FEEL prego anymore. I thought that I was one of the lucky ones that didnt even feel prego during the first trimester (since this was not my first pregnancy - I kinda knew wat to expect). Again, didnt really think nothing of it. I started spotting a week ago and actually went to the ER on the 23rd. Told them that I was prego and that Im spotting. they ask me if I have any cramping and I say no. They look in my file and see that Im RH neg, so they say that they have to give me a ROGAM shot - this I knew already. So, they gave me the shot and sent me home. They didnt do blood tests, they didnt do a urinalysis, ultrasound, pelvic exam - NOTHING! Sent me home with a diagnoses of a threatned abortion/miscarriage. Well I follow up with the nurse practitioner since my reg dr was out of the office - and she asked me what all the ER did for me, I told her nothing but gave me a shot. So she ran a urinalysis and found out that I had a UTI, she gave me meds for it and sent me home. Well a week later Im still spotting off and then I go to the bathroom monday in the afternoon and I noticed at first a smaller than pea sized clot - I call my mom to have her take me to the ER since hubby was unavailable. As Im waiting for her to show up I have a lil more clotting. I go to the ER and AGAIN they do nothing!!! They tell me that since I have no cramping that it isnt a medical emergency to perform an ultrasound. And since Iv already had the Rogam shot, and on meds for the UTI there was nothing that they could do they said. I was mortified - here I am spotting an they are telling me that there is notihng that they can do! So I went home...and I called the dr and she was able to see me that evening and got me scheduled for an ultrasound at 7 on monday night. So I go in and have the ultrasound and when everything was said and done I asked the tech if I was still prego and she told me that she wasnt allowed to tell me that and that I had to wait till the dr reviewed it and called me. So I left the hospital again in tears...and cried the whole way home. Hubby asked me as soon as I pulled up what I found out and I told him that I didnt find out anything and he says what do you mean you dont know - how can you not know anything. I told him that I had to wait till dr called. So Tuesday morning is here and I go to the bathroom late morning and there it was....a LOT more blood and more clots and the next time I went to the bathroom I seen the sac. All this before the dr even called to tell me what I already knew. So, as of NOW Im still going thru the miscarriage process. Im not too sure wat to say....or even wat to do, I think hubby is feeling the same way. We havent really talked about it - nor do I really want to. I know that every time that I see a baby, or a pregnany woman Im prolly going to cry, and I know that its normal to do so. Im not going to force anything Im just going to let things naturally happen. Even the next pregnancy - if it is meant to be then I will concieve when Im ready to and not a moment before.

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